Quarter Life Crisis : Understanding and Overcoming!

So currently , I have been struggling with myself. It seems like I am very uncertain of things; decision-making in particular. I was just too anxious in everything i do. I try my best but end up in situations I really don't like to be a part of. Perhaps, I was just so afraid to fail and to be rejected as a result. But these are just a few of my issues.

Recently, a friend opened up a problem to me,because I noticed her posting provoking statements in Facebook. And so I asked her.She stated that her thoughts were consuming her while she was alone. And suddenly I remembered a couple more friends who shared the same problem to me. And as I was contemplating on it, I associated it with my own dilemmas. And I thought that this could not be a coincidence. There might be a reason behind this. And so with my critical mind, I started to scrutinize and to research about it. At first I thought it was called midlife crisis, but turns it turns out that the proper name for it was quarter life crisis- and i was mistaken :p But anyway, as my research went on I found out that it was exactly the thing!This happens in ages between adolescence and adulthood.

• Well based on personal experience, going through this involves being paranoid- it's like you can't trust anybody around you. And this might be true. In this stage you may find the ones who would really stick out for you. Because basically, as you are experiencing this, they might be going though this as well. Well this might not be a one-size-fits-all situation, because a lot of factors are involved-like your social life, health and even wealth (financial status). 
•  Another thing is, in line with being paranoid, you get very observant and you become insecure. And do not belittle this. This insecurity could eat you up! It could make you or break you. This could be the root of your soon to be problems.You start comparing yourself with others and if you don't win, you find holes in them.
• Also I remembered suffering from over familiarity. I thought that I was really bored with seeing the same faces everyday. It seems like there's nothing new to talk about with your friends, because they know everything about you already. I remembered not bothering to give replies to text messages sent by familiar people in my contacts but I tend to reply frantically, when a new contact number appears in my inbox. That's how hungry I was for new things or new people to be exact.
• And how ironic is it to be exited for new people but paranoid in taking risks right?  Another is moodiness. I tend to be very moody. One time I asked my friend to watch a movie and minutes later i decided to not do it, because i don't feel like it anymore. It feels like it is so hard to be constantly motivated. And this has been greatly affecting decision-making.And this would also lead to procrastination. An issue we all go through.
• Negative-thinking is another thing. Especially when I am alone, thoughts just come rushing though my mind and sometimes I lose focus and worse I get so consumed by it, and as a product, it is affecting my actions. 
• And a by-product of the above is being judgmental. Insecurity,negative thoughts then prejudice .This just always gets most in trouble. This is a primary cause to misunderstandings and broken relationships.
• Another big issue is the stress that all these brings forth. Stress does not only affect us emotionally but as what I have experienced, I was also greatly affected physically and mentally. I have pimples from sleepless nights(either doing my projects, making sure they are perfect, or thinking about present issues), dandruff, hyper-acidity, and indigestion.I also become very forgetful. If that makes sense.

And together, this problems could force you to hate yourself. Hate Life. Hate everybody. Even blame God for everything. 

There might be anymore problems associated with the quarter life crisis. But hey! Problems are always there ; the fun part is that you get solutions to these. You can learn, move on and even inspire! Do not lose hope! Be an overcomer!

• First things first, know that this is a natural phenomenon. You are not the only one struggling with these problems associated with quarter life crisis.You are not alone. It is a matter of perception. If you try to look at it in a bigger perspective, you can twist it all and make these problems as stepping stones to happiness. For example, instead of being insecure, learn to appreciate, not only yourself, but others as well. Being paranoid can be good in some ways, you can open this side to making your school projects, right? Making sure that everything is in its proper place. See? It is just how you weigh and handle things. 
• Know that when problems occur, it is not always somebody else’s fault. Sometimes it’s just you. Sometimes yourself is your enemy. Your mind is a big battlefield. Even the Bible says so. (Romans 7:15-20). It is still a matter of choice. Choose friends who are positive. Choose the right path. If it is possible to not learn the hard way, then choose that.Happiness is a choice. If you don’t allow it, it won’t come.
• Stop comparing and competing. I mean you can use good competion but life is not like any normal race. Their are no ranks in this race that we run. We run together so we win together. If somebody falls, help out. Get back up, and run again!
• We don’t live in a perfect world. And the same goes with our lives. We can’t achieve perfection in this world. I mean in the standard of this world, we are nowhere near perfect. Only God has the standards for real perfection and that is possible through Him, through Jesus Christ His Son ( John 14:6)
•  Know that we need these. The catterpillar has to wait patiently and struggle to get out of its cocoon before it could show to the world it’s beauty. Imagine that we are also going through this metamorphosis, like a butterfly. The cocoon is the battlefield, where we have be trained, we need to fight to survive, to try, to fail, to learn, but stand again. But after all the hardships, we get to face the real world, ready to face another chapter, right?
•  Above all, notice that we would not always get what we want. What’s important is to seek the will of God. Sometimes we just forget about God, about His promises. Remember that He is slow to anger but abounding in grace.We will always fail. But with God, there is purpose, there is acceptance, there is contentment. Pray. Seek and you will find. You may not understand everything, but trust that God has something speacial for you, for He who promised is faithful.Sweet victory is waiting for us.So run well.Hebrew 12:2

Who can be against you, if God is on your side?

Glory to God for everything He has done!